One of the more common humiliation fetishes I encounter is boot and/or foot worship. Of course, this does not imply that all scenarios where a submissive is worshipping a Mistressess boot/shoes/feet have to be humiliating. Still, I think at its most basic level, the average person (whoever that is!) would very likely associate worshipping these body parts with a more lowly connotation. Prior to his betrayal and crucifixition, Christ himself performed a feet washing ceremony on the disciple "whom he loved" and in this act humbled himself in a way not typically characterstic of a Savoir or King. The foot is often a dirty part of the body and to cleasnse, touch or lick this body part, exemplifies not only a sense of servitude but also ilicits feelings of intense humility.
In this latest podcast, I describe such a scenario.
Cruelly yours,
The Malignatrix
Saturday, March 24, 2007
Tuesday, March 6, 2007
Humiliation Vs. Embarassment; Pt. II
I am inclined to believe that when it comes to dissecting the tenets of humiliation vs. embarrassment, embarrassment is something that occurs more on the surface. Humiliation takes place on a deeper level, hitting at the very core of one's being. Egos are more often involved in simple embarrassment, whereas one's ideas of self concept and values get shaken through exposure to humiliation. The boy who asks a girl to dance only to be rejected by a "no, thank you" perhaps feels embarrassed for a short time afterward. The boy who asks a girl to dance only to be laughed at by she and her friends for having the nerve to think this cheerleader goddess would be caught dead dancing with the likes of him--that boy will become more familiar with the concept of humiliation. I also tend to think that when we are talking about embarrassment we are referring to things that impact one's psyche in the short term, perhaps immediately following the incident, but not necessarily for much longer. When referring to the effects of humiliation, the impact is of a longer lasting duration and often creates a shift in one's outlook and ideas of self perception.
Does it do any good to analyze all of this? Perhaps. Perhaps not. Do we need to intellectualize why or how certain things have the power to make us feel or respond in certain ways? Not necessarily. Do I love to analyze the psychology of eroticism--you bet! I am a social scientist at heart and will never tire of trying to figure out what makes people tick cognitively AND emotionally.
I'd also be willing to posit a theory that the higher one's intellect is the more inclined he or she may be to participate in forms of BDSM and erotic humiliation; either as the humilator or humiliatee. The more we evolve in our technology and our capacity to take in massive amounts of information grows, the more we need to push other boundaries. (The writings of a Canadian philosophy professor by the name of Mark Kingwell explore how current events and "extreme" behaviors and acts are a mere reflection of the anxiety society feels because for all of our modern day advancements, we have simply become removed from ourselves and one another) The more we feel removed from one another and even from ourselves, the more extreme our desires can get. Though, as a playmate of mine recently pointed out, there is a very delicate balance to be had when playing these games. It is easy to over do it and if the spirit in which erotic humiliation or other forms of BDSM are partaken in happen to be of a downright mean and abusive nature, then it is more likely that it will not produce the intended (positive) result.
Cruelly yours,
The Malignatrix
Does it do any good to analyze all of this? Perhaps. Perhaps not. Do we need to intellectualize why or how certain things have the power to make us feel or respond in certain ways? Not necessarily. Do I love to analyze the psychology of eroticism--you bet! I am a social scientist at heart and will never tire of trying to figure out what makes people tick cognitively AND emotionally.
I'd also be willing to posit a theory that the higher one's intellect is the more inclined he or she may be to participate in forms of BDSM and erotic humiliation; either as the humilator or humiliatee. The more we evolve in our technology and our capacity to take in massive amounts of information grows, the more we need to push other boundaries. (The writings of a Canadian philosophy professor by the name of Mark Kingwell explore how current events and "extreme" behaviors and acts are a mere reflection of the anxiety society feels because for all of our modern day advancements, we have simply become removed from ourselves and one another) The more we feel removed from one another and even from ourselves, the more extreme our desires can get. Though, as a playmate of mine recently pointed out, there is a very delicate balance to be had when playing these games. It is easy to over do it and if the spirit in which erotic humiliation or other forms of BDSM are partaken in happen to be of a downright mean and abusive nature, then it is more likely that it will not produce the intended (positive) result.
Cruelly yours,
The Malignatrix
Monday, February 19, 2007
Humiliation and Embarassment
Some people just deserve to be degraded and humiliated, for no other purpose than that it is the reason why they were put on this earth. In today's podcast, meet the pathetic slave boy who constantly craves attention from his Mistress only this time, the attention he receives is a bit more than he bargained for.
Cruelly yours,
The Malignatrix
Cruelly yours,
The Malignatrix
Thursday, February 15, 2007
Erotic and Verbal Humiliation Audio
I've posted a podcast file at Odeo that will appeal to those who crave erotic and verbal humiliation. Its a short little piece recorded by me with the theme of a perverted employee getting "reprimanded" by his dominating, sexy female boss. This story is titled, "The Price You Pay". I just love when the tables are turned don't you?
To hear the audio, simply click on: Erotic Humiliation by The Malignatrix.
To hear the audio, simply click on: Erotic Humiliation by The Malignatrix.
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
Why erotic humiliation?
In a world where males are taught to prove how fabulous they can be, why would anyone knowingly seek to be humiliated, especially within a sexual or erotic context? I mean, a guy who gets off on being insulted, degraded or overpowered by a strong, smart, sexy female must have serious mental issues, right? At the very least he must suffer from a dreadful lack of self-esteem...
Wrong.
These assumptions couldn't be further from the truth. I have met a multitude of men who are intelligent, successful, competent and confident in every facet of their lives and yet come to me craving humiliation in its various forms. For some, it's the string of verbal insults, name calling and attacks on their masculinity which appeals to them. For others, being spanked, flogged, or reprimanded in some other corporally fashioned manner is the main craving. And for a very brave lot, being forced into compromising and embarassing (and often public) situations can be just the element that arouses a burning sexual need that is most profound and all-consuming.
Many people become baffled at the thought of a man who willingly subjects himself to sensual and/or erotic humiliation, especially at the hand of a woman. How can he even call himself a man if he allows a female to treat him in such a way, one might wonder. The answer to this question is really quite simple, though perhaps the concept may not be so easy to wrap one' s mind around, given the societal constrictions in which we live.
Men need to be humbled. Unfortunately for most, they are taught the exact opposite. For when a male is objectified, defiled, eroticized, emasculated or humiliated, it is in these moments he finally becomes able to commune with his higher self. Consider the Christ story. Here was a man who was demeaned, tortured and ultimately crucified for the "greater good". Those schooled in the Christian faith are more than familar with the link between Christ's suffering and humiliation and the opportunity for redemption for all of mankind. I posit that the man who seeks humilating experiences is in essence, longing to embrace a piece of that redemption and make an attempt at resignation to all that binds him to the very confining societal mores of what it means to be a male. A sense of balance is restored. Through humiliation, one can experience moments of profound inner peace.
The Malignatrix
Wrong.
These assumptions couldn't be further from the truth. I have met a multitude of men who are intelligent, successful, competent and confident in every facet of their lives and yet come to me craving humiliation in its various forms. For some, it's the string of verbal insults, name calling and attacks on their masculinity which appeals to them. For others, being spanked, flogged, or reprimanded in some other corporally fashioned manner is the main craving. And for a very brave lot, being forced into compromising and embarassing (and often public) situations can be just the element that arouses a burning sexual need that is most profound and all-consuming.
Many people become baffled at the thought of a man who willingly subjects himself to sensual and/or erotic humiliation, especially at the hand of a woman. How can he even call himself a man if he allows a female to treat him in such a way, one might wonder. The answer to this question is really quite simple, though perhaps the concept may not be so easy to wrap one' s mind around, given the societal constrictions in which we live.
Men need to be humbled. Unfortunately for most, they are taught the exact opposite. For when a male is objectified, defiled, eroticized, emasculated or humiliated, it is in these moments he finally becomes able to commune with his higher self. Consider the Christ story. Here was a man who was demeaned, tortured and ultimately crucified for the "greater good". Those schooled in the Christian faith are more than familar with the link between Christ's suffering and humiliation and the opportunity for redemption for all of mankind. I posit that the man who seeks humilating experiences is in essence, longing to embrace a piece of that redemption and make an attempt at resignation to all that binds him to the very confining societal mores of what it means to be a male. A sense of balance is restored. Through humiliation, one can experience moments of profound inner peace.
The Malignatrix
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